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Showing the child that what they say is more important than how they say it.
Showing the child that what they say is more important than how they say it.
3. The "Level Up" (Eye Contact)
3. The "Level Up" (Eye Contact)
Goal: To reassure the child you are listening, even when they get stuck.
Instruction:
The Action: When they start to stammer, stop what you are doing (put down the phone/spoon).
The Level: Get down to their eye level immediately.
The Look: Maintain warm, patient eye contact. Do not look away, look at their mouth, or look worried.
The Message: Your eyes say, "I have all the time in the world. I am listening to you.".
4. The "Zipper" Rule (No Interrupting)
4. The "Zipper" Rule (No Interrupting)
Goal: To prevent the child from feeling rushed or inadequate.
Instruction:
The Instinct: When a child gets stuck on "B-b-b-b...", parents naturally want to help by saying "Ball!".
The Problem: This tells the child, "You can't do it, so I will do it for you."
The Rule: Zip your lips! Wait. Even if it takes 10 seconds. Let them finish the word themselves.
Siblings: Ensure brothers and sisters know this rule too!.
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